So after getting one of the meanest emails ever from her (there have definitely been meaner though), I’m going to have to ask my sister straight out if she actually wants me to be her maid of honor or not.
Related: At what point should anything not be ALL about a bride-to-be during her engagement?
Like, my sister said she didn’t need to be part of planning her bachelorette, so I did so, like, in full. And then she started making “suggestions” after one of the bms told her bits and pieces of the night’s plan. And so instead of immediately canceling the plans, which were completely centered around her and things she’d enjoy, I ended up defending the decisions I made and telling her all of my “surprises,” and now according to her, I’m “making everything about me.”
Like, I’ve been searching for a dress since I found out I was pregnant, and she turned down the one I liked, which wasn’t a maternity dress, and which my aunt and I thought would be fun and easy to recreate to fit me since I’ve been sewing more and more. I did order a different dress after my sister turned down the one I picked, and it’s definitely too tight and too boob-y, and will totally be too short with another two months of baby up in my tummy. Whatever, she likes this one, so I’ll suck up looking like a packed sausage in her pictures. But now, according to her, the problem with the original dress was that it was “white” in the photo I showed her (even though it was pink) (and even though I told her it would be plummy to fit her jewel tone theme). And she cannot fathom why I’d need to have a white dress made for me instead of just picking one of the millions of dresses out there. So this easy task of finding a “vintagey” dress, I’ve made into a big issue, and have made things about me again.
(FYI that most maternity dresses aren’t very stylized, as in they’re pretty vanilla, and lots are printed…and I’ve seen every. single. one. of. them. multiple times. because I’ve been hunting since November.)
Like, she cut the bachelorette guest list drastically, and was very picky and choosey about family invitees (like, included one aunt but not the other, two of our cousins but not their sister, who we’re actually closer to, but who isn’t as “fun” in that she has kids and doesn’t go out every weekend…) because “they probably wouldn’t come anyway.” Instead of saying “That sounds great,” as she thought should have been my response, I pointed out that this will probably hurt feelings…and now - YEP - I’ve made this “about me” too.
Also…She’s getting married in New Orleans, for fun, which is fine, and expected me to bring my whole family. Eventually, after lots of guilt-tripping, she finally stopped harping on me about it. This all said, she still has zero understanding of how difficult it will be for me to make it work: our savings are split sooo many ways right now, between the impending baby’s birth, the renovations we’ll have to do to make room for him, and affording this trip I can’t really afford AT ALL (“Just drive with us,” she says, even though my doctor said nope and it would add three days to my time away from home). Also, I will be leaving P alone with three very active kids for a long weekend (“Can’t his parents just watch them?” she asks, even though they’re in their 70s and she knows I wouldn’t be comfortable with that).
There’s just no recognition of how hard this is on everyone, not just me, and it’s getting to be too much…
"Your hair looks really nice today," P said.
"Thanks! It’s like the first time ever it’s looked good air-dried!"
"No. It’s at least the second." (Not irritating, shy-ish smile) "It looked pretty awesome on our honeymoon."
Sometimes he’s pretty great.
And Lisa! From no swimsuit scenes to blouses barely buttoned halfway up and sports bras in the gym…?
I’d still take her life too though :)
And Yolanda’s monochromatic outfits…?
I still want to be her when I grow up though :)
So this Carlton person on RHOBH:
Are we all just pretending she’s young/hot/not on the trashy side…?
Keep in mind that I’ve watched only a couple of episodes and missed all if last season.
Although I’m bummed that they mentioned Braise over nearby C. 1880, helmed by James Beard nominee, Thomas Hauck.
Try them both, if you have the chance!
Check out #4…
I’d have to agree ;)